Who are Ally Parents? What do we do?

We are a group of parents who have come together because we have a transgender child. We live all across the United States. Our children are at different ages and at different stages along their journeys. Some are just beginning to transition, some are living authentically as adults already. We come from different backgrounds and most of us have actually not met (yet). What we have in common is an unconditional LOVE for our children. We are allies to the transgender community.

Ally Parents are here to help any trans/non-binary person. We are also available to chat with parents who need some support.
We are:
  • available via text
  • available via phone/talk
  • limited availability to emailing
  • parents of trans individuals
  • affirming, supportive and safe
  • available from 9am-11pm EST most days
  • love at the other end of the phone
  • trained and vetted via a thorough background check
We are not:
  • crisis counselors
  • therapists, social workers or licensed counselors
  • available in the middle of the night yet

Access the comprehensive list of Ally Parents by clicking here.

Ruckersville, VA

Sausalito, CA

Plainview, NY

Midlothian, VA

Temperance, MI

Palm Coast, FL

Westfield, NJ

Platte City, MO

Newaygo, MI

Portland, OR

Santa Fe, NM

Fort Belvoir, VA

Annandale, VA

Woodland Hills, CA

Paoli, PA

Estacada, OR

Berkeley, CA

Charlottesville, VA

Little Elm, TX

Roseville, CA

Hilton Head Island, SC

Hedgesville, WV

Anchorage, AK

Ferndale, MI

Los Angeles, CA

Farmington, MI

Orion Township, MI

Fort Irwin, CA

Lincoln, NE

Burbank, CA

Suwanee, GA

Omaha, NE

North Canton, OH

Berkeley, CA

Lake Orion, MI

Santa Cruz, CA

Huntington Woods, MI

San Rafael, CA

Midlothian, IL

Edina, MN

Macomb, MI

Geneseo, NY

Laredo, TX

Topsham, ME

Lancaster, OH

Bellevue, WA

Alpharetta, GA

Costa Mesa, CA

San Diego, CA

Herriman, UT

Saco, ME

Barnum, MN

Round Lake, IL

Kirksville, MO

Lenexa, KS

San Jose, CA

Tulsa, OK

Livermore, CA

Colorado Springs, CO

New Rochelle, NY

Trumbull, CT

Santa Rosa, CA

New York, NY

Haslett, MI

Franklin, NH

Wappingers Falls, NY

Lincolnwood, IL

Rehoboth Beach, DE

Luttleton, CO

North Andover, MA

Chicago, IL

South Haven, MI

McCook, NE

Keller, TX

La Crosse, WI

Hollywood, FL

Starkville, MS

Longview, WA

Wayland, MI

Spokane, WA

Portage, MI

Des Moines, IA

Massapequa, NY

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

Raleigh, NC

Ashland, OR

West Lebanon, IN

Farmington Hills, MI

Monroe, WA

Weston, FL

New Brighton, MN

Washington, D.C.

Concord, CA

Fort Worth, TX

Novato, CA

Bellingham, WA

Merrick, NY

Bethesda, MD

Flat Rock, MI

Dunedin, FL

Amarillo, TX

Nashville, TN

Bullard, TX

Lindstrom, MN

Stratford, CT

Wharton, NJ

Wynnewood, PA

Albany, CA

St. Johns, MI

Wilsonville, OR

Rochester Hills, MI

Poughkeepsie, NY

Ellenburg Center, NY

Chesterfield, MO

Seiverville, TN

Huntsville, AL

Elkridge, MD

Rochester, IL

Brookfield, WI

Pottstown, PA

Brooklyn, NY

Ithaca, NY

Cary, NC

Rehobeth Beach, DE

Walpole, MA

North Berwick, ME

Venice, FL

Richmond, TX

Greenbrae, CA

Erie, PA

Lakeport, CA

San Jose, CA

Germantown, WI

Denver, CO

Watertown, TN

Cleveland, OH

Newtonville, MA

New Philadelphia, OH

Los Angeles, CA

Miami, FL

Denver, CO

Chandler, OK

Lake Worth, FL

McFarland, WI

Brisbee, AZ

North Hampton, NH

Beverly, MA

Atlanta, GA

Ledyard, CT

Rutledge, PA

Madison, WI

Spokane, WI

North Platte, NE

Brooklyn, NY

Boca Raton, FL

Waldo, AR

Boise, ID

Brunswick, ME

South Pasadena, CA

Manchester, MO

Oakland, CA

Clare, MI

Indianapolis, IN

Roseville, CA

Canby, OR

Seattle, WA

Port Huron, MI

Jersey City, NJ

Thomaston, ME

Waverly, OH

Redondo Beach, CA

Burke, VA

Troy, MI

Allen, TX

Ridgeland, MS

Auburn, WA

Tuscon, AZ

Furlong, PA

Ozark, MO

Albuquerque, NM

Lakewood, OH

Mequon, WI

Bellevue, NE

Plymouth, WI

Eliot, ME

Cincinnati, OH

Fresno, CA

Champagne, IL

Longmont, CO

Burns, WY

Lake Stevens, WA

Reno, NV

Berkeley, CA

Boise, ID

Lawrence, KS

Sheriden, WY

Cameron, NC

Grass Valley, CA

Sherman Oaks, CA

Lee's Summit, MO

Jupiter, FL

Smyrna, TN


Teaneck, NJ

Oakland, CA

San Ramon, CA

Temple, TX

Roseville, MI

Easthampton, MA

Albuquerque, NM

Ann Arbor, MI

Glen Rock, NJ

Normal, IL

Loma Linda, MO

Cascade, IA

Watford City, ND

Port Huron, MI

Jersey City, NJ

Canby, OR

Dexter, MI

Franklin, TN

Chesapeake Beach, MD

Springfield, OR

Lynbrook, NY

Trabuco Canyon, CA

Rochester Hills, MI

Oklahoma City, OK

Fruita, CO

Rutland, MA

Deluth, MN

Washington, MO

San Diego, CA

Waterford, WI

Springfield, OR

Dexter, MI

Franklin, TN

Chesapeake, MD

Talk to an Ally Parent

Are you a trans*/non-binary/gender-queer or questioning individual?

Ally Parents are here for you. Many of you out there do not have the support or affirmation you so richly deserve. As Ally Parents, we have lots of love and understanding to go around. Do you need a friendly ear to just listen? Do you just want to ask a question or say “hello”? It is so important to us that anyone who is transitioning or thinking about coming out has the tools they need. What we can offer is a kind word, a loving, virtual hug, or perhaps a suggestion or two. We will not judge.

Parent to Parent

Do you parent, care for, or love a trans*/non-binary/gender-queer or questioning individual?

Ally Parents is here for you, too. No matter where you are on your journey, Ally Parents can provide an empathic ear, share resources, offer camaraderie and mentorship, and community for parents and caregivers who may be experiencing shock, anxiety, isolation, confusion, or a host of other emotions. Whether you are looking for guidance from a parent who is further along on the journey, trying to make sense of your new reality, or seeking to connect with someone who “gets it,” Ally Parents is a phone call or a text away.

Want to talk to an Ally Parent?

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Volunteer to be an Ally Parent

If you are the parent of a transgender child of any age, you may be eligible to join our dynamic group of parents. Contact Judie Tomaszewski​ at judie@standwithtrans.org with any questions.

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