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We are a group of moms who have come together because we have a transgender child. We live all across the United States. Our children are at different ages and at different stages along their journeys. Some are just beginning to transition, some are living authentically as adults already. We come from different backgrounds and most of us have actually not met (yet). What we have in common is an unconditional LOVE for our children. We are allies to the transgender community.

TALK TO AN ALLY MOM: Are you a trans*/non-binary/gender-queer or questioning individual?

Ally Moms are here for you. Many of you out there do not have the support or affirmation you so richly deserve. As Ally Moms, we have lots of love and understanding to go around. Do you need a friendly ear to just listen? Do you just want to ask a question or say “hello”? It is so important to us that anyone who is transitioning or thinking about coming out has the tools they need. What we can offer is a kind word, a loving, virtual hug, or perhaps a suggestion or two. We will not judge. FYI… Ally Dads, Coming Soon! Here is a link to our Ally Moms list.

Do you parent, care for, or love a trans*/non-binary/gender-queer or questioning individual?

Ally Moms is here for you, too. No matter where you are on your journey, Ally Moms can provide an empathic ear, share resources, offer camaraderie and mentorship, and community for parents and caregivers who may be experiencing shock, anxiety, isolation, confusion, or a host of other emotions. Whether you are looking for guidance from a parent who is further along on the journey, trying to make sense of your new reality, or seeking to connect with someone who “gets it," Ally Moms is a phone call or a text away.

VOLUNTEER TO BE AN ALLY MOM: If you are the mother of a transgender child of any age, you may be eligible to join our dynamic group of moms. For an application, click here. If the link is not working on your computer, email Janna Barkin at jannabarkinyoga@gmail.com for an application.

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What is Gender?

Gender is more complex than most of us have been taught. Gender is made up of three parts: (1) gender biology (our bodies or biological sex – our sex assigned at birth based on appearance of genitals), (2) gender expression (how we dress and act), and (3) gender identity (how we feel inside). For most kids, these three facets of gender line up and the kids are typically gendered boys or girls (cisgender). For other kids, however, these three facets of gender align differently; these kids are gender-expansive, which includes transgender kids. Source: www.genderspectrum.org

Ally Moms

We are a group of moms who have come together because we have a transgender child. We live all across the United States, Canada, and now Australia. Our children are different ages and at different stages along their journeys. Some are just beginning to transition, some are living authentically as adults already. We come from different backgrounds and none of us have actually met (yet). What we have in common is an unconditional LOVE for our children. We are allies to the transgender community.

Share Your Story

Sharing your journey builds connections that create community. Some of us feel that we can’t tell our story because we will be judged, shunned, shamed or bullied. Others know that talking about who we are strengthens our resolve, builds self-esteem and boosts confidence. When you open up to others relationships are borne out of common experiences and shared values. It is refreshing and energizing to know that you are not alone. Give blogging a try. Putting the words on paper gives voice to your identity. It validates who you are. It’s like a weight was just lifted that you didn’t even realize was present. If you don't feel ready, speak with others who have shared their story…that can help.

How to Be an Ally

If you know someone who is transgender, here are some tips: Use correct pronouns. He, she, they, them, and xe are some that are widely used. If you aren’t sure of their preference, ASK!! It may sound weird saying in your head “so what pronouns do you prefer?” but it isn’t weird. No one will be offended. Refrain from using derogatory terms like tranny, he/she, she-male, “a trans”, it, fake, etc. The phrase “a transgender” is incorrect grammar. Transgender individuals are people. The word transgender is an adjective not a noun. Another important factor is the person’s name--the transgender individual’s chosen name is their name no matter what it says on their birth certificate.

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