When you’re first beginning to question if you might be trans, it’s okay to feel a wide range of feelings–some positive, some negative, and some that you might not be sure how to identify. It’s important to remember that wherever you find yourself in the gender sphere, you are still your wonderful, worthy self.

There isn’t a test that can definitely tell you if you’re cis or trans. Some people are sure right away, some people take more time on the road to self-discovery, and some people find out that their identity may shift over time, or that there may be another label that feels like a better fit later. It’s never too late, too early, or too often to check in with yourself and your relationship to gender.

Stand With Trans offers several support groups, as well as an Ally Parents program, in case you need support from your peers or from a parent of a fellow trans person. You don’t need to already know your exact gender identity to participate–you’re welcome to join and participate even if you’re curious or questioning!

Gender dysphoria is not a requirement to identify as trans, and you’re not any less valid if you don’t experience it often (or at all). Many folks feel that gender euphoria, or the positive feeling you get from doing things that align with your gender identity, may be a better metric. For example, someone who identifies as trans male may not experience dysphoria simply from seeing their chest, but they may feel a huge spike in joy, comfort, or self-esteem when they use a binder. Another example of euphoria is the affirmed feeling a nonbinary person may get when their family uses their they/them pronouns correctly.

You are still a good person, and you’re a human being deserving of respect, kindness, and validation. There is nothing wrong with being trans. You are exactly whoever you are meant to be, you add value to the world by being here, you are lovable and loved, and you deserve to be celebrated

Resources:

Stand With Trans–Ally Parent Program

Stand With Trans–Support Groups

                                Gender Spectrum–Gender Neutral Pronouns

Gender Spectrum–Understanding Gender

Gender Spectrum–Myths About Gender

GLAAD–Transgender FAQ

Trans 101–Gender Diversity Crash Course

Pronouns.org–Resources on Personal Pronouns

Minus18–Pronoun Practice Game

GLSEN–Gender Triangle Education Guide (PDF)

GLSEN–Pronoun Guide (PDF)

TransTorah–Trans Etiquette/Respect/Support 101

GLSEN–Gender Terminology Activity and Guide

Everyday Feminism–What They Don’t Tell You About Being Transgender (CW: Language)

Everyday Feminism–I Think I Might Be Trans: 8 Important Notes on Questioning and 50+ Resources to Get You Started 

Advocates For Youth– I Think I Might Be Trans (PDF) (Spanish)

Advocates For Youth–I’m Muslim and My Gender Doesn’t Fit Me (PDF) (Arabic)

Everyday Feminism–Help! I Think I Might Be Non-Binary, But How Can I Know?

HRC–What Does The Bible Say About Transgender People?

HRC–7 Things About Transgender People That You Didn’t Know

The Trevor Project–Diversity of Non-Binary Youth

Healthline–How Do You Know If You’re Nonbinary?

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